Letting the green beetle go

As I drive home from work singing at the top of my lungs to the radio, I often hit a barrier of instant anger and frustration.

It comes on so suddenly that it’s hard to anticipate and it feels uncontrollable.

But it has to stop. It’s only a matter of time before my daughter starts learning certain ‘driving words’.

The truth is, getting angry is often controllable and I’ll tell you how I control my road rage… (trust me, it’s very obvious and very easy to do once you know about it…)

How To Let Go Of Road Rage

The green beetle

As I hit autopilot on my way home, I start to notice sneaky cars from the right hand lane filtering into my left hand lane. It’s enough to make me wonder if there’s an accident ahead in their lane that I may need to be aware of.

But no. It happens far too often as my lane was just a tiny bit quicker than theirs.

It was enough to start making my eyes burn holes into the back of their cars for their lack of foresight.

Then a seemingly innocent lime green VW beetle with big flower stickers pulled in front of me. No real warning or indication. The usual traffic related antics that most queue enraged drivers will encounter.

As we get nearer to the roundabout I filter into the new left hand lane as… I was turning left. It’s a left only lane (you get the point right?).

Mr green beetle then filtered behind me – which is odd considering he was in the middle lane with enough room and time to have filtered left ahead of me.

Anyway, people are allowed to change their minds and I shrugged off Mr green beetle, having already burned a hole into his car for his misdemeanor earlier.

But then he then went OVER the roundabout, not turning left.

This really annoyed me. From being in the right hand lane, to the only lane where you can’t go straight ahead… he then went straight ahead, putting others in danger, zig zagging his way home in what can only be described as a Noddy car.

My mind nearly popped in fury over the green beetle and it put me in a bad mood in seconds.

Letting it go

Even just reliving it makes my blood begin to boil.

I shouldn’t let moments like this rule my days, but that’s all it takes. A rubbish driver doing his own thing, dumping his rubbish-ness on me.

But with a positive focus, I looked at the situation from a different angle. I didn’t actually get angry. I still watched him like a hawk as it’s drivers like that that can cause accidents, but I didn’t let him ruin my day.

I asked myself: “Can I do anything to change this?” I couldn’t. He was always going to be a rubbish driver in a rubbish car. He wasn’t hurting me or anyone else (yet), so he’s not worth the anger and frustration. It’s not going to add anything to my day and will in fact steal away those precious positive moments.

So I chose to let it go. It’s as simple as that. I had a choice.

The difference is knowing that you  have a choice as to how you react.

I usually choose to get angry about it as that’s the easy, automatic route.

Once you’re aware that you have a choice as to whether something annoys you or not, it makes it a lot easier to let the small stuff go.

Sure, if your house is on fire, then feel free to get annoyed, feel angry and generally worry. But for those everyday small moments? Just smile it off.

Take a deep breathe and maybe call him a silly head. But then move on.

Let the green beetle go, you’ll feel calmer and happier for it.

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14 Comments

  1. September 13, 2017 / 7:44 am

    It’s been years since I’ve driven, but I remember road rage well. It can be so frustrating when someone is driving stupidly, but you’re right – you have to remember that there’s nothing you can do to change their behaviour. All you can do is change how you react to it. #fortheloveofBLOG

  2. September 13, 2017 / 11:41 am

    With peak hour traffic here in Cape Town and some drivers being silly on the road – it is hard not to lose your cool and control your rage. Remembering when I lost my cool and forgot my then toddler and preschool daughters were strapped in the back seat – I felt so ashamed of myself. Now I swallow my words and rage in my mind. #fortheloveofBLOG

  3. September 13, 2017 / 4:52 pm

    Hi, I drive a lot and confess to getting a tad annoyed sometimes, but mainly dumbstruck at they way others can drive. I also make sure that I always thank drivers especially when they ignore you and you let them out, it just makes me feel better #fortheloveofBLOG

  4. September 13, 2017 / 6:46 pm

    Road rage is a sneaky thing, sometimes I don’t even know why I’m so angry at someone for doing something that I myself do when driving. #fortheloveofBLOG

  5. September 13, 2017 / 9:31 pm

    We have a private school in our street and they always drive over the roundabout in their big SUVs and don’t indicate when they turn. It drives me bananas. Until I drove in Hawaii, I didn’t realise how agressive and angry Sydney traffic was…#FortheloveofBLOG

  6. September 14, 2017 / 10:44 am

    My daughter tells me off when I use “driving words” lol. I do get angry driving, but unless someone has driven really badly I have usually let it go by the time I get home.
    #fortheloveofBLOG

  7. September 14, 2017 / 8:47 pm

    I don’t drive so don’t know much about road rage, other than what I’ve seen as a passenger. I was in a car with someone once and they got really angry which was quite scary. It is so important to try and keep calm with the kids in the car isn’t it. #fortheloveofBLOG

  8. September 15, 2017 / 1:10 pm

    It is very true, I try to ask myself that before getting too angry ‘can I change it’ if the answer is no don’t waste your energy x
    #fortheloveofblog

  9. September 16, 2017 / 9:55 am

    The amount of times when we’ve seen crazy drivers on the road is frightening. We once saw a car go the wrong way round a roundabout and he said we were in the wrong despite the clearly visible signs placed around it.#fortheloveofBLOG

  10. September 16, 2017 / 3:35 pm

    I used to drive nearly 1000 miles a week with my job and I learnt to just chill out on the road. All that time behind the wheel can drive (excuse the pun) you crazy and getting angry just made me a danger on the road so I just stuck my music on and concentrated on my own journey. My other half also drives lot for work and he has terrible road rage…I keep telling him to let it go but he just can’t! #fortheloveofblog

  11. September 17, 2017 / 9:50 pm

    I admit to getting a little bit of road rage and also dwelling on things, silently fuming. I TRY to let it go Elsa style but it doesn’t always work 🙂 #fortheloveofblog

  12. September 18, 2017 / 6:09 pm

    I need to read this over and over!’ I often get annoyed at people in the same way. Like you say at the end of the day what can we do about it and it’s always better to just take a deep breath and forget about it. Like you I also don’t don’t want my little girl hearing what I say and repeating it! #fortheloveofBLOG

  13. September 19, 2017 / 7:23 am

    I dont drive but definitely get passenger road rage! some people shouldnt be on the road and are a danger waiting to happen. My current bug bare is those kids on motorbikes or scooters who weave in traffic. We have a big problem in our area and it does not have a happy ending! #FortheloveofBLOG

  14. September 19, 2017 / 7:23 am

    I dont drive but definitely get passenger road rage! some people shouldnt be on the road and are a danger waiting to happen. My current bug bare is those kids on motorbikes or scooters who weave in traffic. We have a big problem in our area and it does not have a happy ending! #FortheloveofBLOG

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