Why I’m not perfect and that’s fine…

When I wake up in the morning, one of the first things I do is look in the mirror.

I stare at the person looking back and start searching.

Every morning, without fail, I’ll find something that needs to be improved. Something that needs picking, or something that shows that I’m not perfect.

I'm not perfect and that's fine

I make a mental note that I need my hair doing soon, pluck out the rogue eyebrow hairs and scrub my face to start another day.

Let’s not get started about the internal turmoil of stepping onto the scales in the morning when you know what that not so magical 8 ball will say.

I step into the shower and think about the day ahead, I think about the things I need to juggle and start planning:

I think about what juggler’s ball I’ll need to drop today in order to make it work.

Which will it be today?

  1. Be a great mum
  2. Be good at my job
  3. Keep my house clean/tidy
  4. Exercise the amount I’m supposed to
  5. Eat healthily
  6. Feel awake and energised (aka, getting enough sleep)

I’ve long since lost the ridiculous notion that I can have it all.

Instead, I opt to be good at a handful of things. I can’t and don’t aim to be perfect. I can fight as much as I can, but I’ll never reach it.

If I wanted to do everything on my list or even more than a handful then I can’t do them all with the same highlander gusto.

What gets put on hold?

Most days, I’m sad to say that being a great mum is put on hold while I go to work.

As a consequence, I also can’t exercise the amount I’m supposed to as my desk job and half hour lunch break just don’t allow it.

So it turns out that being a mum is like an epic game of the Crystal Maze.

My Crystal MazeGeorgia Wearing a Hat

I run from room to room trying to solve the next puzzle, with the zones of: Parenting, Health, Home and Work.

Sometimes I get locked in.

Sometimes I even get a few crystals along the way.

But the thing is, the game is really about the end point. The crystal dome. Sure, that’s the boring bit that doesn’t involve other people piping in with their input on what you’re doing wrong, but it is the aim.

It’s not about making one zone work really well. It’s about getting by. Getting enough crystals from all of the zones combined for the grand finale that we call life and happiness.

We all know what happens when you try and use up every second in a room reaching for an unattainable crystal. You’re out of the whole game unless you give up something else.

So no, I’m not perfect and I play it safe. But I am trying my best in each zone.

I step out of the shower, put on my war paint and do the best job I can for the day ahead.

Sure, I can’t have it all – I don’t want to as the cost is too high. What I can have is acceptance.

I’m not perfect and that’s fine.

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28 Comments

    • Kelly Edwards
      August 2, 2017 / 7:38 am

      Thank you!

  1. August 2, 2017 / 7:04 am

    Every day that you wake up and try you are winning! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Kelly Edwards
      August 2, 2017 / 7:38 am

      That’s so true.

  2. August 2, 2017 / 8:33 am

    I think that each day passed without a trip to A&E with the boys is a successful day in my house:) It’s all a bit of a struggle this parenting, work, living lark:)
    Mainy
    #fortheloveofBLOG

  3. August 2, 2017 / 8:55 am

    I often wonder why we are so hard on ourselves and even though we know it keeps happening! #fortheloveofBLOG

  4. August 2, 2017 / 9:00 am

    Great post. Something we all need to remember! I sometimes give myself a hard time for not being the perfect mother and wife that I always thought I would be (a Pinterest mum!), but my family are happy and healthy, and that’s all that matters in the end. #FortheloveofBLOG

  5. August 2, 2017 / 9:07 am

    Love the second last line. The cost of what we do. Very interesting. And good post. With teenagers it’s interesting seeing perfectionism in others and how dangerous it is. #FortheloveofBLog

  6. August 2, 2017 / 9:43 am

    My idea of a perfect mum isn’t one who can do everything, but one who does her best. So in my opinion you’re a perfect mum. #fortheloveofBlog

  7. August 2, 2017 / 10:06 am

    Fab post, I find it so hard and hate myself at times for getting my 18 month old up at 5:15 am 3 times a week so I can get her to my mums so I can get to work. I’m not a perfect mum but I try my best and work to provide food on the table.

    #fortheloveofBLOG

  8. August 2, 2017 / 10:50 am

    Yes! This has such a positive message to it. I really need to stop setting myself too many chores to do in one day. It just makes life too stressful. Loved the Crystal Maze reference too, used to watch that show every week! X #fortheloveoblog

  9. August 2, 2017 / 12:34 pm

    sometimes we are too hard on ourselves, everyone is doing their absolute best in managing to balance everything#fortheloveoblog

  10. August 2, 2017 / 2:20 pm

    Yes, parenting is like the crystal maze, that made me laugh. I only aim to be good at one thing a day. Yesterday I was good at blogging. Today I’m good at working. Tomorrow, who knows! #fortheloveofBLOG

  11. August 2, 2017 / 9:41 pm

    This is very well put and is the perennial problem for all of us. I think acceptance is the key – it’s something I’m working on. Thanks for the wise words. #fortheloveofBLOG

  12. August 3, 2017 / 10:31 am

    What a great message, one that we try very hard to instill in our young girls. I grew up as a perfectionist — and with that in mind, all you can do is fail. We always do our very best: be the best person, try the hardest at what we are learning, accept who we are. That’s quite a gift to give your little one! <3 #fortheloveofblog xoxo

  13. August 3, 2017 / 12:28 pm

    Such a great post and so very true. We have so many things to juggle and most of the time being good rather than perfect is good enough. #fortheloveofBLOG

  14. August 3, 2017 / 3:11 pm

    We can be so hard on ourselves can’t we? I don’t think perfection is attainable and it only makes us a sorry mess if we try to reach it. I think so long as the majority of the time we can go to bed with a smile on our face then we are winning x
    #fortheloveofblog

  15. August 3, 2017 / 6:47 pm

    We can’t have it all, no one can, accepting that makes you feel in peace with all what life throws at you. #fortheloveofblog

  16. August 4, 2017 / 7:29 am

    Why are we so hard on ourselves? Nothing is ever good enough and we never feel good enough! If our little ones were able to tell us how they felt they would probably just say we love you mummy and you are amazing!
    P.s you look amazing and inspire me to get my lazy butt back to the gym with all your early morning runs! #fortheloveofBLOG

  17. August 4, 2017 / 10:12 pm

    We are our own worst critics. We all do need to start looking and telling ourselves what we have done well and what we love about ourselves far more! #fortheloveofblog

  18. August 5, 2017 / 7:27 am

    I think it’s good to strive to be perfect but not worry if we don’t always meet it. #fortheloveofBLOG

  19. August 5, 2017 / 11:00 am

    I love this. I’m forever giving myself a hard time, thinking I should or could be doing more. But then I remind myself that my daughter is happy and healthy so I must be doing something right. We should gives ourselves a break shouldn’t we. #fortheloveofBLOG

  20. August 5, 2017 / 3:03 pm

    I think learning to accept that some things need to take a back seat is so important (particularly if it is housework! 🙂 ) #fortheloveofblog

  21. August 7, 2017 / 9:23 am

    What a great message, nobody is perfect! #fortheloveofBLOG

  22. August 7, 2017 / 9:31 pm

    What a fabulous analogy! That’s really resonated with me – we just need to do as much as we can in each room and accept that sometimes the crystal needs to be left behind, but the end goal is still attainable. Great post!

    And congratulations because somebody loved this post so much, they added it to the #blogcrush linky! Feel free to collect your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂 #blogcrush

  23. August 8, 2017 / 2:10 pm

    Great post! I’ve been beating myself up a bit recently about lack of exercise and not being the perfect mum to my toddler as I’m pregnant and just toooooo damn tired some days. Feel rubbish like I should be giving her more. But then some days are great. It’s all a balance! #FortheloveofBLOG

  24. August 8, 2017 / 8:28 pm

    The fact that Ben can walk, say certain things, likes certain toys or books makes me realise I’m doing a good job. For a working mum, I still have my mothers instinct who knows what he needs. THAT means more to me than anything.
    Love your message here! #fortheloveofBLOG

  25. August 9, 2017 / 9:45 am

    OMG I love NOT being perfect Kelly – ask Claire – she’s met me in real life ha ha. It doesn’t exist anyway. I also encourage peeps and my coaching clients to start NOT-TO-DO LISTS for the week – basically things they don’t need to feel or do. We always think of what needs to be done and not what we need to stop. Love this blog post. Thanks again for having me as a Guest Linky crew member on #fortheloveofBLOG. Hope to meet you in person one day too xx Sunita

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