Give me back my exciting news

As a woman about to say “I have exciting news”, I’m filled with flutters in my stomach. I’m excited to tell you my news.

After all, sharing exciting news with other people is exciting – it means that we’re sharing our journey with other people and taking them with us. I want to tell people about the big moments in my life and there’s plenty of room to share it with everyone.

But for goodness sake. Can we just agree already that ‘exciting news’ doesn’t always have to be about being pregnant?

I for one – am not pregnant.

There, I’ve said it.

I’ll even down a bubbly glass of Prosecco if it will put your mind at ease.

My exciting news is not pregnancy related. No. I’m getting a new kitchen. To me, that’s exciting (and flipping expensive). That’s exciting news right?

But let’s be honest… There may have been a tiny (or very large) moment there, where you may have assumed – like many others reading those words – that I am pregnant.

Let’s agree to stop deflating exciting news

When leading with ‘exciting news’, I have the feeling that I’m letting people down when they find out what my news actually is. I see their faces drop.

They’re expecting THE exciting news. All the time.

My actual news just pales in comparison to their vision.

It’s like I’m part of one of those adventure books where you choose the journey… I’ve just told them I have exciting news and they are actively choosing that my news is pregnancy related. Only they’re bitterly disappointed when they flip to page 32 to discover a paragraph of kitchen ramblings. It wasn’t the path they chose for me.

The cold truth is, I don’t share my adventure book, or let others dictate my path. So instead, I feel as though every exciting news announcement is a judgement on what page I should have flicked to instead.

Being 30 and having a near 3 year old, it’s assumed that my only exciting news should be THE exciting news of a new baby. Even for people with two, three or more kids. Every time we hear the words “exciting news”, we pop an imaginary baby in their womb.

It’s speculative, presumptuous and more long derogatory words than I can waggle a stick at. You know it, I know it, even my cats know it. But it still happens. People can’t help but to jump to conclusions – to try and finish a story that isn’t theirs instead of just enjoying the story.

Stealing thunder

But it also really steals the thunder of actual news. And you know what? I want my news back. I want to reclaim my exciting news and the reaction that it should have.

My womb is not for rent for a presumptuous ‘exciting news’ delivery.

So I for one, would like to reclaim ‘exciting news’ to come back to meaning what it really is.

That I can have ANY type of exciting news. That any woman has the right to not have their exciting news deflated because of a wrongful assumption.

I hope you’ll join me in being excited about my new kitchen 😉.

Reclaiming exciting news

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  1. I’m past the age where exciting news means baby. It usually means new job or child getting married or even exotic holiday. I love the exciting news. All kinds. There’s too much of the bad stuff at the moment.

  2. I hope now I have two kids – and then being a girl and boy, people will stop thinking the same with me. I don’t know why people automatically think exciting news is Baby related, but I think we all do. Hooray for you claiming it back and I’m jealous of your new kitchen, that’s on my go do list #fortheloveofBLOG

  3. This is so true. I have three (the youngest being ten months) and I honestly thought this would stop now. But no, because all my children are girls – everyone assumes that I am obviously going to be trying again to get a boy! Erm nope, I’m happy as I am thanks. To be honest, I got a new kitchen (well new extension to be exact which was still being built when I went into labour -another story) and it is SO exciting. It is like a whole new house. So I for one am very excited for you about your new kitchen! 🙂 #fortheloveofBLOG

  4. It’s so sad that that’s all people expect from women when they have exciting news! I’m sad for the people who were disappointed.
    I am thrilled for your new kitchen! That is a huge and expensive undertaking, but it’s something that you can control and you get to make your dream kitchen! That sounds like a wonderful announcement!

  5. I totally agree on this – I think all of us do it (me included!) – i think we all just assume it, especially if the person sharing their news is still of an age where they can have babies!! #fortheloveofblog

  6. I like this little tong in the cheek post. It’s true, it should be used for all sorts of exciting news, because we all have them and want to share them. #fortheloveofblog

  7. Love this post! I know exactly what you mean about this whole ‘exciting news’ thing…. I often have had to say…. oohhhh no not that exciting news and then am a little deflated about what I had been excited about I the first place. I for one am very excited about your new kitchen! xx #fortheloveofBLOG

  8. A new kitchen! That’s so flipping exciting. I’m a bit jealous. I remember whilst I was off getting married without my family they all went out for dinner and my sister said she had news, didn’t even say exciting news, everyone leapt to the pregnancy conclusion. They were all disappointed when the news was both she and her partner had been made redundant. No one will make that mistake again! #fortheloveofBLOG

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      Haha!! It’s quite funny, when I launched it on Twitter, the tweet a few down from mine said “Come check out my exciting news on Instagram”…

  9. My kids are a older now, 19 & 12, but when I say have something exciting to say you know people are thinking baby. Exciting news is not baby related to me, a kitchen is exciting news!

  10. This post really made me smile, such true words! Whenever I say I’ve got exciting news, my family respond with ‘Oh god your not pregnant are you?’ Imagine if I actually was!!! #fortheloveofblog

  11. So, so true! I’ve thought about this quite often. And you are so right, there’s always a pregnant pause when the recipient realises that the exciting news isn’t pregnancy related (and, yes, I meant the pun). Great read.

  12. Congrats on the new kitchen! I cannot wait to be able to make those decisions when we get our own home! I agree though, anytime a woman announces news, peoples first instinct is pregnancy! gets frustrating at times! #fortheloveofBLOG

  13. It’s true that people jump to the conclusion of there being a bun in the oven. A new kitchen sounds like a great thing to have ours is too small. #fortheloveofBLOG

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