2018 Diary with pens and a laptop

Making a hard career decision

I’m a part-time working mum, but things are about to change.

Since going back to work over two years ago, I’ve been working four days week, with Wednesdays being my day off with Georgia.

It’s been lovely.

But as I said, things are going to change.

You see, I have been offered a new job. But it was the hardest decision I’ve had to take with my career.

Comfort or progression…

In my current job, I’m comfortable. Perhaps too comfortable – I’ve been there a while and I know what I’m doing. There’s a lot to be said for comfort when it comes to having a family to provide for.

I’m also pretty damn good at my job.

I love the people that I work with and I’ve grown and thrived over the past five years. I’ve been allowed to come up with my own ideas and follow them through. Some of them worked and some of them are passed off as ‘learning experiences’.

But five years is a long time and I felt I was ready to start looking around.

Deciding to go full time

Before deciding that I wanted a new job, I first had to come to terms with the simple fact that there wouldn’t be any part time positions available.

They’re like gold dust and unless you’re already in a role, it’s almost impossible to find a part time role.

So, I did the math (I used my budget spreadsheet to forecast) to work out what salary I’d be happy with to go back full time.

Sure, I’d be spending less time with Georgia on a Wednesday, but I’d also be able to provide more for my family to be able to be a little more comfortable.

It was a hard decision. I’d suggest anybody in similar circumstances to weigh up the pros and cons for their family.

It’s easy to feel stuck in a job. For stability. For the knowledge that the unknown new employer may not be flexible enough. For the knowledge that you get to spend more time with your family if you work part-time.

A lot of mother’s I know give up their careers to spend more time with their family and here’s me looking for the opposite.

But the truth? It’s the right decision for MY family and for me. I’m not everybody else, I’m just me.

It doesn’t make me any less of a mother to want the best for my family, to want to progress my career.

Flexible new role

What I didn’t count on is my new employers being really flexible.

I asked before the interview whether the role was full time or whether they’d consider a part time role, to be answered with a straight forward ‘it’s a full time role’.

Okay, I thought. At least I know what I’m up against.

But at the interview, he brought it up. We talked about how Georgia is the centre of my life (obviously we also covered whether I know what I’m talking about for the role, but I don’t think you’re interested in seeing my presentation).

And actually? He didn’t frown or shy away from it. In fact he fought for it. He said that having a family and being family centred fits in with the business really well.

Although they can’t reduce my hours as they have too much work to do – or more accurately, I now have a lot of work to do – they are being flexible about it and being led by me.

After all, I had come to terms with working full time before even applying.

So, we’ve decided that I’m going to work one day from home a week.

They’ve obviously read up on Mother Pukka’s Flex appeal.

Moving on

I’m really sad to be leaving my current work family and telling my boss was one of the hardest things I’ve had to do.

It actually makes me quite upset to think about, but equally, I’m really proud of myself for having the courage to move on. To find something that’s really exciting for me.

Just because I’m sad to be leaving, I’m so excited about what’s around the corner for me.

So, the morale of this story is to be brave and stick to what you believe in.

To work out what you want and to be brave enough to make that jump.

Moving to a full time role as a part time mum. Bringing up Georgia

Comments 25

  1. Congratulations on the new job, and what a relief that they’re allowing you to work from home one day a week too. Well done! #fortheloveofBLOG

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      Thank you – I wasn’t expecting that they’d be flexible at all so it’s very lovely that they’re so reasonable x

  2. congrats on the new job! I’m a HR Manager and it is so difficult to find part time positions in this field (I am in one but only because I made it that way) and I do think, unless I go back to being full time, I will struggle to progress my career. My plan is to wait until my youngest (nearly one) is three and then go back full time. its hard balancing work with motherhood and you always lose out somewhere. For me though, the knowledge that I will be able to actually afford to go on holidays and take my girls to more different places is a massive motivator. All the best with your new role! #fortheloveofBLOG

  3. Good luck with the new job and your new family life πŸ™‚ It’s lovely to read about how your new employer was so positive and flexible after some of the horror stories out there πŸ™‚

  4. Eeeek, so scary but exciting. I am working from home but itching to go back. Every time I see a job ad I think I might go for I do the maths on the childcare an lie awake at night wondering what it would be like to send my daughter away to nursery all day, every day. But you are so right about jumping off the diving board. All the very best with it. Girl power! #fortheloveofBLOG

  5. I went from 4 days to 5 to lessen my commute so I could see my son before bed every night. And although I knew it was the right thing, I still cried that I gave up a day with my son. It can be so hard to find the right balance. I feel frustrated there isn’t more flexible job options to help working parents. Hopefully it will move in the right direction as more employers see the value in flexible working. Loved the post #fortheloveofblog

  6. Congratulations on your new job! How great that they are being flexible. I know you’ll be sad to leave your current position but it sounds like the change was needed. Good luck xx #fortheloveofBLOG

  7. Congrats on the new role! I know it’s a big change to go back to working full time, but you have to do what is right for you and your family. It’s great that your new employer has been so pro-flexible working too. #fortheloveofBLOG

  8. Good for you – if it works for you and your family then thats all that matters! I went back to work Part time last week (i work 2 days!) and its so hard to adjusting isn’t it! Good luck in your new job!! #fortheloveofblog

  9. I think it’s great that you’ve taken the step to progress your career. I’ve not gone back to work yet – still on maternity leave. And I’ll be going back part time. I suspect the transition to full time again will be a decision I’ll have to make in the future too, so it’s good to read your experience of how you made the decision, and what it means for work and family. #fortheloveofBLOG

  10. All the best moving forwards positively and it is great that you are sad to leave the old too as means you have special memories. Overall, I just wish work was made a more easy option for mums generally #FortheLoveofBlog

  11. Congratulations & Good luck with the new job lovely! I can’t believe you manage to work 4 days a week and run an amazing blog already!! You’ll be amazing and sounds like the extra money will pay for all sorts of fun #fortheloveofBLOG

  12. So brilliant that they are being flexible. I went from 4 days to 5 to lesson the commute- I felt guilty but gained so much extra time in the evening too.

  13. It’s so hard being a working mum. I’m going back to work tomorrow after a year on mat leave. I’m dreading it to be honest. But I’m only going back part time – eeek!

    I wish you all the luck in the world in your new job.
    Best wishes,
    Jennie xx
    #fortheloveofBLOG

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